I love an abundant life, and I am blessed with one. I am a thinker, and a doer, so my mind and calendar can go on overload. Work, family, and even friends can sometimes seem demanding. This happens when I say yes to everything, any invitation, any responsibility, even though I actually do have a choice to say no. I want to enjoy what I do, and I want to enjoy the moments I spend with friends and family. I don’t want to feel like a victim: angry, resentful. After all, no one forced me to say,“yes.” So, I have had to learn to say the word,“no.” I use a pleasure scale to do this. I step back, take a deep breath, and ask myself……”Will I feel as delighted in agreeing to this event as when I hold a baby, watch a butterfly, or play with a puppy?” Sometimes the event involves another person, then I ask myself an additional question, “How important is this event to that person?”, Knowing myself, I delight in making others feel joy, even if the event has little interest to me. I am looking for balance. I want to make it a win, win situation. I find that my life is more joyful when I only accept invitations that have meaning to me and to those I love. Anger and resentment are gone.